Arriving in the Philippines over two years ago to help out after Typhoon Yolanda, I never expected I would still be here.

The amazing, crazy and tragic things that have happened over the past two years have left me drained but strangely uplifted and it’s only since Christmas that I made the solid decision to stay and create a permanent life here. Even three months ago I was still planning on returning to my Australian life later in the year.

But how to have a Philippine life helping children and an Australian life that funds the projects? Dual lives?

I have two adjacent lives that seem to neither cross nor meet. That’s my next challenge to create one life, where I am one person who spends time in both countries. How to become one person again that doesn’t exclude the people I love and care for in Australia and enables me to love and care for the children and families here I have grown to love.

I suppose it was having Jerry come back into my life in November who brought a vision of a future here.

So here I am exactly where I am meant to be and trying to be exactly who I am meant to be and live my life with more love, more tolerance and more kindness. Kids will do that to you.

© 2016 Melinda Irvine

2 responses to “Decisions”

  1. arminell Avatar


    A few times I’ve replied on your blog and its crashed! Hence personal email. I think what you’ve decided is really wonderful and brave. Not many people are as strong as you and I’m sure I’m not the only one a bit envious of you! How can you not love the people you’ve met? They are truly beautiful. Feel happy in your decision, if its right for now that’s good. Things can change and that’s okay. Don’t fill stuck or bad about changing. That’s life, just follow the path that feels right, right now.

    I’m a envious of you and Jerry and I’m sure it’s not easy what you’re going through. I hope to see you both, and think of you lots. Good people get good rewards, and that’s you.

    Miss you, so glad I’m your cousin. I’m very lucky.



    1. mel irvine Avatar

      you know i was just sitting here wondering about this blog and the stuff i write. i was wondering about my audience and who actually cares about this stuff and then your post came through. and another one from a friend on the sunshine coast of queensland.

      people are so busy in their lives and overwhelmed with information, i often wonder if my writing is just adding to the clutter that is life in the 21st century.

      god always sends us exactly what we need at the right time.

      apart from the writing, i truly know that i am in the right place here. jerry is improving daily and i love him dearly.

      i can’t wait for you to meet him and hopefully visit here. you would love what i am doing with the children this year. so much fun.

      i am always thinking of you even if i don’t email. it gets a little overwhelming at times trying to keep in touch with everyone.

      hope you will be at mum and dad’s party in july. yeh i miss you, very much.

      i feel so blessed and lucky to have you in my life maya.